Beauty – Is It Physical Appearances or Self-Esteem?
Beauty is a universal concept that is hard to define, but is understood by all. In many societies, physical beauty is seen to have acceptable norms though some of these norms differ between cultures. We may have a hard time to explain when we are asked what is beautiful to us. However, if we were to point out a beautiful woman in a group, men and women do it easily and naturally. As the saying goes, when it comes to great beauty, we will know it when we see it.
Not everyone admires beauty the same way though. Beauty is a subjective experience. It involves the individual’s feeling of attraction and emotional well-being. We often here the saying; “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. However, as society imposes its general expectation on women’s beauty, beauty evolves into a common expectation and a standard comparison between women.
So what is a “standard” definition of beauty then? My best guess is, if we were to talk about women, it is the physical qualities that she possesses. It is the ability of the woman to give out intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the viewer’s senses. The admirer’s positive feeling of pleasure or goodness is usually derived from the woman’s body shape, clothes that she wears or how attractive her facial features are, amongst others.
However, beauty can also be about the woman’s personality. It is about having compassion for and helping others, a shoulder to cry on, respecting others, respecting herself, project kindness to human and animals alike, loving others and of course, loving herself. This is described as inner beauty which comes about from having the right dose of self-confidence and a healthy self-esteem.
While this is not usually the first thing that comes to our mind when we talk about beauty, inner beauty plays just as an important role in how beautiful a person appears to be. Maybe more so than outer beauty does.
Inner beauty is not something that unattractive people say to our self to feel better. Inner beauty can be just as, if not more captivating as the external appearance can be.
Inner beauty may be described as something that is experienced through a person’s character rather than by appearances. It is the real beauty of a person that goes far beyond just physical appearances.
It is a woman’s inner belief that they are attractive that makes them more appealing to others. The glow of confidence and physical attractiveness comes from within her. Some of the most fancied personalities are not really physically attractive but their glowing confidence and self-belief makes them attractive to every member of the opposite gender.
First impressions do not always depend on our physique or our facial features. We need to believe that it comes from within our self. That is where our true beauty lies. When we start a conversation, people will initially assess us; as pleasant or not-so-pleasant. As the conversation goes on, people will start to pick up the nice qualities and traits emanating from us, and people will then start to find us more and more beautiful or charming.
When we love, appreciate and feel good about our self, we would feel more confident about facing and interacting with others. Outer beauty attracts glances while inner beauty makes someone stay. This is the secret to a healthy self-esteem.
Naturally, we will notice a person’s physical appearance first. However, when a woman have bright eyes that flicker, a smile that warms the heart, a radiant glow that surrounds her when she walks into a room; she has obviously harnessed her inner beauty.
The best part of inner beauty is the fact that unlike our outward appearance, inner beauty does not wrinkle, gray or diminish with age. It will only radiates stronger as we cultivate it.
Only then will you see yourself as a truly beautiful woman.